THE CANADIAN PRESS
NAPANEE, Ont. — David Frost actively controlled the sex life of one of his hockey players and his girlfriend, demanding the couple ask his permission before having sex — often with him participating — and even coercing the girl into having sex with her boyfriend’s 14-year-old brother, the player’s former girlfriend testified Tuesday.
The woman, now 28, has testified that Frost first had a threesome with her and her boyfriend while Frost was coaching the junior A Quinte Hawks in Deseronto, Ont., in 1996 — when she and her boyfriend were 16.
Frost, 41, has pleaded not guilty to four counts of sexual exploitation against two former Quinte Hawks players who cannot be named.
The Canadian Press is also not identifying the two women who have testified this week about having sex with players and Frost during the period of the alleged offences, when they were juveniles, though the women are not part of the same publication ban.
On Tuesday, the second woman told court she started dating her boyfriend in the fall of 1996 and soon after was involved sexually with him. Not long after that, her boyfriend called her from the hotel where Frost and several players lived and said, "Dave wants to have sex with us."
"I was kind of shocked at first," she testified. "I was like, `What? You want me to do what?"’
She didn’t want to go through with it, she said, but was given an ultimatum: either have a threesome with Frost or the relationship is over.
The first of what would be "umpteen" incidents happened that same night.
"I was scared," she said. "I just remember being really cold."
Frost went first, as he always did during their threesomes, she said.
When it was all over, she felt "awful. Like it wasn’t right."
The situation was repeated again and again throughout their five-year relationship, she said. It happened so many times she has a hard time distinguishing one incident from the next, she tearfully told court.
"After however many umpteen times, it was just numbness, like, `Let’s just do it, whatever."’
"It was almost like robotic. … I guess I could have said no and left and that would have been it, but I didn’t. … In my head I didn’t have an option."
Threesomes weren’t the end of the woman’s sexual encounters, she testified. Frost suggested it would be a good idea for her — she was 18 at the time — to have sex with her boyfriend’s then 14-year-old brother because he was a virgin, she told court.
She balked at the idea at first, but her boyfriend convinced her, she testified. So with Frost and her boyfriend present, she had sex with the younger teen, she said.
"Dave was sitting in a chair and just telling us what to do," she said.
During that same year, the girl worked at a hockey camp with Frost and the players, many of them living at Frost’s house. One day she, another player and Frost were in a trailer at the camp and Frost ordered the two to have sex, she testified. When asked why, he said, "Because I want you to," the woman told court.
When Frost, the witness, then 19, and several players were staying at a cottage during the summer of 1999, it was Frost’s idea to have a foursome, she testified.
It happened in Mike Danton’s room, she testified, which was so small the bed practically touched the walls on each side. Danton, who went on to play in the NHL, would later plead guilty in 2004 to a failed murder-for-hire plot with Frost as the alleged target.
Sex was a constant source of tension for the young couple. Not only would Frost constantly have three-way sex with them, he controlled when they could have sex alone, she said. She testified the control was framed in the interests of her boyfriend’s hockey career, but it continued even during summers.
When they lived together for a time in Massachusetts, her boyfriend had to call Frost to ask if the two of them could have sex, she said. If it was after a game and he hadn’t played well, the answer was no, she told court. Sometimes they would anyway, but with the understanding it had to be kept secret, she said.
.She testified she asked her boyfriend one time, "If we end up getting married … are we going to have to call Dave if we want to have sex?"
When asked why she didn’t just leave, she said doing so would have punished her boyfriend, and she didn’t blame him.
The woman told court that Frost took charge of nearly every aspect of his players’ lives. She said her boyfriend could only call her when Frost allowed it, and that she could only call him through Frost.
"Dave was the boss and it was very clear that he was in control of every action that the boys made," she testified.
"There was a look that he would give and everybody would jump. … His rule was the only rule.
"I’m not saying that he didn’t do good for them. He got them into the NHL, which is what they wanted."
But she said the NHL was dangled like a carrot on a stick in front of the players.
When she questioned the control Frost had over them during their time in Deseronto, they would say Frost was their way into the NHL, so they had to follow his rules, she testified. When many of them got into the NHL and the situation didn’t change, they would say Frost was to thank for their success, she said.
